How to Live Your Best Life?

Are you ready to live your best life?

a happy woman living her best life

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Then there is one word in particular that you should never use!

Want to know what it is?

It’s my least favorite word in the English language!

It’s the word that makes me want to scream whenever I hear it used in a sentence!

The word that makes me wince and realize action is required!

It’s the word that new clients often used when asked to describe their life!

It’s the word that will keep you from living your best life!

Ready to hear?

The word is…Fine.

Fine. Such a seemingly innocuous word, yet it’s so unwittingly powerful.

My loathing for that word began several years ago when I’d spent quite a bit of time picking out just the right outfit for a party (remember those?). Discarded outfits littered our bed until I’d finally found just the right one I felt really good in. Walking down the stairs into the kitchen, hubby, who was sitting at the kitchen island reading a ski magazine, looked up, and I asked him, “What do you think?”

To which he replied, “Fine.”

“Fine?” I said.

“Yeah, fine,” he repeated.

I remember squeezing the stair railing and drawing in a breath, and, well, let’s just say hubby knows better than to ever use that word to describe how I look again!

Another time I was in a coaching session with a client who was talking about her relationship with her spouse. As she talked about their marriage, the kids, the house, she sighed and then with a small shrug of her shoulders said, “Things are fine.”

I tried not to cringe, but she saw me and gave an embarrassed smile.

So, I asked, “Is fine working for you?”

She smiled again and shook her head. “No,” she said. “Fine is definitely not working for me.” And I watched as her eyes lit up with the realization that she was ready, and deserving of so much more.

What about you?

Are there areas of your life that you would describe as fine?

Are You ok with that?

You know I’m not! I want so much more for you!

I didn’t come here for fine, and neither did you, sweet friend! We’re here to live exceptional, outstanding, amazing knock-it-out-of-the-park life, magical lives!

Are you ready?

I dare you!

Don’t know where to begin?

Let’s talk!

Schedule a Free Session Here – Magical Living Discovery Session

I adore you and I want you to live your best life, so what are you waiting for?

Ready for More? Go check out this Important Question to Ask Yourself!

or the way to Stop Labeling Yourself

 

Transformational Life Coach vs. Therapist

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What’s the difference between a Transformational Life Coach and a Therapist?

Perhaps you’re considering transformational life coaching but you aren’t sure if it’s for you because you already have a therapist, or were thinking about finding one. How do you determine whether or not you need a transformational life coach or a therapist?

While they may both help with mental health and emotional healing, life coaching focuses primarily on setting and achieving goals, as well as removing limiting beliefs and blocks that stand between you and your success.

Therapists often tend to focus on the past, rather than use where you are in the present to create action in order to move forward.

How do you determine whether or not you need a transformational life coach or therapist?

This blog will show you three of the key differences so you can decide whether or not transformational life coaching is right for you.

No matter what you choose, having someone to look at your life from an outside perspective can be very beneficial for your progress and personal development.

Holistic Life Coaching Focuses on Outcomes and Goals in All Areas of Your Life

When you begin with a Transformational Life Coach, you will begin by taking a holistic look at all areas of your life from mental, emotional, physical, relational, spiritual, and occupational to see where you are currently and help to establish clarity around where you want to go.

Then, you will work with your Life Coach to achieve the goals and outcomes that you move you forward toward these milestones.

While a therapist can help with many of these areas, they typically focus less on goals and outcomes, and more on problems surrounding these aspects of your life. Therapists tend to work on one area at a time, whereas a Transformational Life Coach taking a holistic approach looks at how all aspects of life work together to create continuity.

Life Coaches Do Not Diagnose, Prescribe, or Treat

A Life Coach is not a medical professional and does not diagnose, prescribe or treat mental illness or other disease. As therapists are typically licensed professionals, and in many cases use a diagnosis to submit to your insurance for payment, they are able to diagnose in accordance with their expertise and certifications.

Psychotherapists may, in some cases, be able to prescribe medications.

A Transformational Life Coach works with the whole person, and while health and self-care may come up as topics of focus, a Life Coach is not a medical professional and will not offer advice in such areas. It is best when working with a Life Coach, to consult with your general practitioner prior to making any changes.

A Transformational Life Coach Can Help You With Your Business

Transformational Life Coaching can help you get clear on and achieve your personal and professional goals. A Life Coach can help you on creating a business plan, improving your communications skills, overcoming money mindset blocks, achieving financial goals, and finding a work life balance. For those looking to start a new business or grow their current business, a Transformational Life Coach is a great choice.

A therapist tends to focus the conversation and work on trauma recovery, unlocking areas in past relationships that are still causing pain or issues, working through depression or anxiety, and significant loss.

Life coaches and therapists will sometimes help their clients with similar problems, but it’s important to understand the distinction between the two in order to decide which one will serve you best. It’s also important to realize that life coaching is not simply “therapy lite” – it is work that focuses on helping to motivate and inspire YOU to achieve more than you believe is possible for yourself!

Does it sound like Transformational Life Coaching is what you have been looking for?

Then I’d love to invite you to book a Free Discovery Session in order to determine if my coaching is a match for your needs! In this free 45-minute session, you’ll have the opportunity to paint a picture of the life of your dreams and together will uncover the limiting blocks and beliefs that are keeping you from achieving those goals.

If you’d like to read what others have reported about their transformational life coaching experience with me, you can read their testimonials here.

Be Happy Now

Be Happy Now

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How To Be Happy Right Now? Change the Way You’re Thinking!

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about Happiness and wondering how many of us are actually feeling happy these days?

I don’t mean the kinda happy happiness. I mean truly, deeply happy.

I’ve noticed a theme as of late that kind of goes like this –

I’ll be happy when…

The virus goes away.

My boss goes on vacation.

I start to exercise and stick with it.

I lose 10 pounds.

My kids go back to school full time.

That check arrives in the mail.

My spouse contributes more.

I launch that business/website/product I’ve been talking about for years.

I start writing that book I’ve been talking about writing forever.

Are you starting to pick up what I’m putting down?

The I’ll be happy when sickness. How many of us have the I’ll be happy when sickness and don’t even know it?

Let me ask you this…

What if you chose to just be happy now?

In this moment.

Right now.

Your choice. Wait for someday, or choose to make someday right now.

Can you feel the difference?

The happiness you’re seeking is either down the road, or that happiness already exists, right here, right now. There’s no need to seek. No need to chase. No need to wait. It’s already here. You simply choose to see it and allow it.

How? I thought you’d never ask!

Look at your life through the eyes of gratitude and appreciation.

Let me repeat that.

Look at your life through the eyes of gratitude and appreciation.

Yup. I’m serious. That’s it. Yes, it’s so simple. So simple that many of you will dismiss this golden nugget because you believe the answer to happiness has to be harder, more complex, right?

Nope. It truly does not.

Because what you put your gratitude on, blossoms. What you appreciate, appreciates. When you’re in the energy of happiness, you grow even more happy. And when you shift your perspective, you open yourself up to Magic!

Best of all, that energy ripples off of you on to others and spreads your light and magic. That’s the kind of contagion we need to be spreading around the world these days, right?

The Happiness Bug!

Try it –

I’m so happy and grateful for the money that’s in my bank account!

I’m so happy and grateful my children have such healthy and robust energy!

I’m so happy and grateful my body is getting stronger and fitter and taking me out on daily walks!

When we’re in the energy of happiness we grow even more happy.

See for yourself! Try it out and let me know how it goes! And please share this post along to anyone you feel could use a little perspective shift, more magic in their life and are ready to be happy now!

Hey, if you’re feeling the love imbued in these posts, be sure check out my  Facebook Page where I post daily treats of uplifting inspiration!

Looking for even more inspiration?

Check out this podcast interview where I’m talking with Deanna Seymour of the Imperfect Party Podcast all about letting go of the labels we where and how to finally ditch ‘em!

Click the following link or listen on your favorite podcast app – Letting Go of Labels Imperfect Party Interview

My interview on the Imperfect Party Podcast with Deanna Seymour

The Imperfect Party Podcast

How to Feel More Energetic Throughout the Day

 

Woman looking happy in field of flowers

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Are you ready to feel more energetic throughout the day?

I don’t know about you, but ever since the day the calendar turned and this new year began, I woke feeling differently.

I didn’t set out with endless New Year’s Resolutions. 

I had more energy!

Nothing in the outside world had necessarily changed, but I felt an energetic shift had occurred within me.

I felt hopeful. I felt lighter. Joyous. Inspired. I still do.

And I’m ready more than ever to help others feel that way, too.

Are you looking to feel more hope? More lightness? More joy? More inspiration?

It’s the time of year when many are implementing good old resolutions and setting big goals.

Yet, I’d invite you to implement a small and effective tool that my coaching clients love and helps them to feel more energetic throughout the day!

It’s an energetic measuring stick of sorts.

How can you feel more energetic?

All you need to do is ask yourself one simple question – Is this bringing me energy in, or causing my energy to flow out?

It’s a humble question, but one I believe we all need in our toolbox as we move into this new year ready to live in our best health, happiness and awakened state.

Ask yourself ~

Is that coffee date with my friend going to fill my well or leave it further depleted?

Will answering that phone call leave me feeling uplifted or drained?

Will checking email first thing in the morning leave me full of energy or exhausted?

Is that choice helping me to feel more energetic, or less?

Remember you have a choice. Choice to allow all you wish to receive in your life and choice to love and protect all that you choose to put out in the world. Your energy is precious! And we want you to be your most energetic self!

Imagine your energy is like the aperture of a camera. It’s important that the aperture is adjusted properly so that light can come in, but too much light is not spilling out.

By bringing in Awareness around the energy you’re putting out and the energy you’re allowing in, you open yourself to Receive (my theme of the year) lots of luscious energy in order to make this your best year yet! ​And if you’re looking for another tool, check out this post on Asking Yourself This Important Question!

If you’re ready to begin and start choosing a life of more energy, joy, and inspiration, I welcome you to book a Free Discovery Call with me and see if transformational life coaching is right for you and can help you to feel energized.

Let’s do this!

How to Reclaim Your Power

strong woman standing on mountain reclaiming her power

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Are You Ready to Reclaim Your Power? 

What a year it has been, eh?

The year many have called the worst year ever.

And for many it truly has been.

Yet as hard as it’s been for everyone, it’s like we’ve all gotten in collective agreement and declared 2020 the worst year ever, and in doing so, given our power away to the year.

I remember when Andie was about 8 months old. She still had one final surgery and I was terrified about her going back into the hospital. So terrified that at one point I ended up in the ER with what appeared to be either a heart attack or a stroke. It turned out to be a panic attack. What was really going on was that the surgeon refused to schedule a surgery date and there was this looming unknown out in the future wreaking havoc on my life.

“Why don’t you call another surgeon?” several people asked. To which I would simply shake my head.

It was to my Aunt Mimi, through the phone line, that I quietly whispered the real reason. “They all know each other. What if the first doctor is offended and curses us and Andie doesn’t make it.”

With that truth spoken aloud, my Aunt would say in return, “Kase, you’ve given all your power away to that doctor.”

As soon as she said it, I felt something shift deep within my belly. I looked over at Andie in her bouncy seat and felt myself sit up a little taller.

With my Aunt’s coaching and script in hand, I called the original surgeon’s office and once again asked for a surgery date. I was told, once again, we’d have to wait. Upon hanging up the phone, I drew in a deep breath and called the office of the surgeon several doors down the hall of Children’s Hospital. I left a message with the receptionist requesting a surgical consultation. She told me she’d call back shortly with possible dates.

Five minutes later, my phone rang back. But it was not that receptionist calling back with dates. It was the office of the original surgeon calling back. Amazingly, a surgical date had just opened up. Imagine that.

I wish you could have seen me on that day. How I went from a scared mom of a fragile child, to a strong woman standing in her power. (We did end up going with that original surgeon, but on our terms and as our choice.)

We all have choice.

You can look back upon this year as the worst year ever.

Give it all your power and just call it a wash.

Or you can shift your perspective and Reclaim Your Power.

You can look back upon 2020 as the year you learned to…

…slow down, reconnect with old friends, discover hidden talents, creativity, patience, acts of kindness…

That’s my invitation to you as you finish out this year.

To Reclaim Your Power!

Finish this year knowing how strong, capable and truly amazing you are. Harness that energy and allow it to sink down into you and become a part of who you are.

So as the calendar changes into a new year, with each new moment, in each new day, you stand in your power knowing You Got This.

I truly believe you do.

We all do.

​May your days be merry and bright, and of course, full of Magic!

If Reclaiming Your Power means making a commitment to yourself in the coming year, I’d love to be your guide on that journey. Schedule a Free Discovery Session or learn more about my coaching and what others have to say here – Coaching with Kasey  

 

How to Feel Better Now

Are You Ready to Feel Better Now?

Feel Better now with a nap or book

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When our daughter was little, there were times when she was so out of sorts, I felt helpless in helping her.

One day, I opened up to a friend and shared this with her. In return, she offered the suggestion of asking our girl the simple question – What do you need?

That question became my magical go-to.

I remember the numerous times I knelt down, put my hands on her bony shoulders, and asked her, What do you need?

Often, she didn’t know, but the fact that I cared to ask and listen, seemed to be exactly what she needed.

I offer this to you today, because so often many of us find ourselves in times of uncertainty and feeling out of sorts.

This is an opportunity to ask ourselves this very question– What do I need?

And in response, just listen.

Let your voice from within tell you what you need.

Maybe you’ll hear:

Rest.

Quiet.

A bath.

A good cry.

A long walk.

A cup of tea with a friend.

A turkey sandwich with lots of cranberry.

A romantic comedy.

Delicious takeout from my favorite restaurant.

A pillow to punch and get out my frustrations.

Are You Ready to Feel Better Now?

Ready to ask yourself that magical question?

Go ahead. It’s your turn.

Ask yourself – What do I need?

Write down the first things you just heard and then get ready to feel better now.

Sometimes we question what emerges on that list, but trust yourself and just listen and write. Often the answers are a bit surprising, but our body, mind and spirit has so much wisdom. When we want to feel better now, sometimes we just need to get out of our own way and let that happen! So, what do you need?

If this post resonates with you, you’ll probably love this one! The Story I’m Telling Myself Is…

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Time to Speak Your Truth?

Just about twenty years ago our daughter Andie arrived in the world, three months before she was meant to be born.

I chronicled the entire journey in my memoir, Preemie.

One chapter that stood out for so many readers was when I introduced the first doctor we’d see after Andie’s three month hospital stay. Readers were outraged and wanted to hun

t that doctor down to give him a piece of their minds and urged me to do the same.

Ultimately, I ended up writing a letter to that doctor. A letter I never sent. Because that letter wasn’t really for him, it was for me. For me any one else who has ever been made to feel less than, afraid and uncertain.

Dear Pediatrician,

I wonder if you remember me?

We met almost twenty years ago?

I was the one with that really preemie baby.

Remember?

She had an ostomy bag and a scar on her back from her heart/lung surgery?

I carried her in a soft pink fleece and was a little shaky having just brought her home from the NICU?

Do you remember me?

Well, I remember you.

I remember your charcoal-colored cashmere sweater and matching thick-framed glasses.

I remember the glossy photo of your three beautiful children hanging on your office wall.

I remember the shiny silver pen you used to record your notes and how you never looked up when you said my daughter would always be small.

I remember you did look up when I said, “No,” and how I had to explain that I meant No, she wouldn’t always be small.

I remembered how you chuckled, and mumbled something about me being in denial.

But I remember knowing that I was not in denial.

I remember the deep knowing I felt within my being – the knowing that my girl would not meet your expectations, but her own and the expectations of those who loved and believed in her.

I remember wondering about the other parents you might meet and what would happen if they believed Your Truth.

I remember promising myself that someday I would tell you just how wrong you were.

Well, that someday has arrived.

My daughter, her name is Andie, in case you don’t remember, is turning 20 next week and is currently 5 feet 10 inches tall and an amazing young woman.

I promised myself I’d tell you just how wrong you were, but instead, I think I’ll just say… Thank you.

Thank you for your certainty in all the things our daughter would not be and your certainty in all the things she could not do, because without your certainty, perhaps I would never have found mine.

Thank you, dear doctor, from all the parents in the world who’ve ever been told what their child is not, so they can believe in everything their child is.

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Today is National Prematurity Awareness Day.

Please pass this along to anyone you believe it may help, and I’d love to hear any of your experiences around the power of forgiveness and speaking your truth, or if it’s something you’re struggling with yourself.

 

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Magical Moment: The Story I’m Telling Myself

I have a question for you?

Is there a not-so-nice sentence or phrase you repeatedly say to yourself, or about yourself? Something that you just casually put out there without thinking a whole lot about it? Something like – I’m such a klutz…or I’m an idiot…or I have the worst luck…or Here we go again…or What have I done now?

For years, mine was always – I’m so disorganized.

Over and over, I’d tell myself and anyone who’d listen, I’m so disorganized and then laugh and list off all my latest blunders to prove my point.

Kid’s school lunches left on the counter… Missed bill payments… Lost paperwork…Doctors calling to ask why I missed an appointment.

For years, I spun in circles chasing after an elusive feeling of organization that somehow seemed just beyond my grasp.

Until the day a new friend stopped by to visit.

We were standing at my kitchen island, and I casually waved my hand around and said as usual, I’m totally disorganized.

She stood quietly for a moment and looked down at the long, wooden kitchen island and then around at the rest of the kitchen and said, You look pretty organized to me.

I was about to tell her how mistaken she was, but something stopped me, and for a brief moment I paused just long enough to look around and see my house through her eyes.

To my surprise, I was looking at a pretty orderly space. If we’d started opening drawers and closets it would have been a different story, but for the most part, things looked pretty darn organized.

Photo credit Jessica Lewis

What the heck?

After my friend left, I slowly walked through the entire house, room by room, just noticing. It wasn’t going to win any awards, but for the most part, it was an organized house.

In the office, I opened one of the file cabinets. Manila folders lined up in an orderly fashion with labels affixed to each one. There was a pile of papers on top of the desk that needed to be filed, but still, there was a system in place to do so.

I remember standing all alone in the office and laughing to myself, then saying out loud, “I’m actually pretty organized.”

I’d told myself that disorganization story so often and so repeatedly, it had become a belief. Not only that, it was a belief I was putting out into the world, and I was unintentionally making sure I was proving myself right!

Back in that moment, I’d made a decision; a pledge of sorts. I will never, ever again say I’m disorganized. Or, in fact, make any other negative statements about myself.

What I had come to understand was that I was unintentionally creating exactly what I did not want to see in my life.

Do you ever do that? Without even realizing it? Put out the energetic energy of what you don’t want to attract into your life?

I’m such a klutz. I’m such an idiot. I have the worst luck. I’m terrible with money. Nothing ever works out for me. I’m so disorganized.

I remind myself, and my coaching clients, to remember that when we have limiting beliefs, we’re unconsciously setting everything up around ourselves to prove ourselves right. What we put out into the world, reflects back to us and becomes the world we see around us. In other words, We’re creating our own reality.

So what does it look like when we’re mindful of the language we use?

I’m getting more and more organized every day.

I’m conscious and mindful of how I move my body through my days.

Good love, energy, and opportunities are coming my way.

Your turn.

Start to notice. Where and when you do undermine yourself? No judgement. Just bring in awareness and see if you can turn that not so helpful thought around into a positive.

I’m here if you need any help!

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Are You Ready to Dream Big?

What’s your deepest desire? Do you dare say it out loud? Or do you worry what people will think?

What if I were to tell you there’s so much more in store for your life? What if you opened yourself up to the possibility that you CAN have your deepest desire?

What if you gave yourself permission to allow yourself to dream big? Dream MUCH bigger than you’ve ever allowed yourself to dream before? If you need help to see the endless possibilities in store for you, I’d love to connect and have a conversation about where you currently are and help you paint the picture of where you’re dreaming to go.

Shoot me an email and we can set up a time to talk,

or book an online appointment HERE.

 

 

Magical Moment: Bad News?

I’ve been hearing from many of you lately that you’re feeling pretty tired.

Tired of isolation.

Tired of disruption.

Tired of bad news.

Tired of uncertainty.

Tired of… You fill the blank.

Yes, it’s a lot. And it’s exhausting… If we let it be.

Because in the midst of adversity there is opportunity. Opportunity to remind ourselves that we have choice.

The question is ~ Where does that choice exist?

We may not have the choice to go to work every day, or look for a new job, or fix our children breakfast and pack their lunches and get them ready for whatever version of school is happening that day, but we do have choice in the moments in between.

Are you taking time each day to move your body? I’m not talking an intense workout program (unless that’s your thing). How about a walk just a few doors down? Or simply standing on the front porch and allowing the sun to shine on your cheeks?

Are you choosing to fill a water glass or bottle and keep yourself hydrated throughout the day?

How about choosing to go to bed a little bit earlier so your tired body gets more of the sleep it needs?

Or wake up a few minutes earlier in the morning and sit in quiet meditation?

Where else can you find choice in your life?

Photo Credit: Debby Hudson @ Unsplash

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I recently discovered a meditation that became a way to bring more light into the darkness I was experiencing. The recording addressed the fact that most of us are so focused on the bad news and negativity were hearing, we overlook all the positive that exists in our lives.

It takes but a few moments to remember all that is good, but the impact of the practice is profound. By remembering all that we love, and speaking those words out loud or writing them down or sharing them with a friend, we choose to let in the light and shift our perspective, which ultimately has a positive effect on the rest of the world.

What do you think? Are you willing to try?

I invite you to allow in a bit of light to shine in on those dark places.

Listen here ~​

​LIVE AWAKE: FEEDING THE HEART & CARING FOR GOODNESS​

I love…

…the sound of a pencil moving across the page

…the coconut cream foam on top of my morning coffee

…the play of light on Georgie’s whiskers in the afternoon sun

…our kitty Lulu curled up on the end of Andie’s bed

…the moss on the big rock just inside the woods

…the fall leaves changing color

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What do YOU love?

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I can’t wait to hear?

 

 

Magical Moment: Finding Away

I’m writing to you from the windy, white sandy beach of Cape Cod.

This was an unplanned vacation, rather it came from a place of Inspired Action.

August was a time of deep connection for our family and my Mama Heart was singing with joy.

Then the calendar turned the page toward fall, the light of days grew a bit shorter, and I watched our beautiful children depart as they began their new journeys in their lives – away from me.

My Mama Heart felt a deep mixture of excitement for them and sadness, loss and longing for myself.

There was a strong temptation to fill my days with things that would keep me busy, i.e. distracted from the grief  I was feeling. The other option – Door #2, that I’ve avoided for so many years, was to really feel what I was feeling.

So feeling I am. Which is what brought me, and Georgie Girl, to this tiny little studio cottage on the beach in Truro, Mass, with my notebooks, sharpened pencils, and an openness and willingness to surrender to whatever may emerge.

Perhaps I may even get a glimpse as to what New Beginnings are in store.

I’m curious about you.

What has this change in season meant for you?

What are you noticing? Feeling?

As always, I’m so grateful when you share your thoughts and musings.

I’m sending you tons of love.

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In the meantime…

I had the honor of being a guest on amazing podcast called Grace and Growth.​

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We went really deep and had amazing conversation about Anxiety, Speaking Your Truth, Taking Back Your Power, Boundaries, Limiting Beliefs and so much more.

You can listen HERE or wherever you get your podcasts.

I really hope you’ll have a listen, and if you like what you hear, please share with those you feel would benefit.

From my heart to yours,

Kasey